My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure
~ Abraham Lincoln
Every human on this planet has the desire to achieve something great in the life.Unfortunately, very few of us succeeds.We are often falling into the same hole.
So,why do we fail? How do we fix it?How to avoid falling into the same Hole?Here the top reasons why we fail.
1. Lack of Discipline:
Anyone who has accomplished anything worthwhile has never done it without discipline. Discipline takes self-control, sacrifice and avoiding distractions and temptations. It means staying focused.
Sacrifice your sleep, resist your temptation for hanging out with friends and most importantly make it as a practice and never unfollow them for your physical comfort.
Your Disciple is your Victory
You might have an idealized vision of what success will look and feel like. Although that can be motivational, it might not be realistic. Succeeding at one goal won’t eliminate all your problems. Be clear on what will satisfy your objectives and don’t obsess about superficial details.
2. We Give Up:
More people fail not because they lack knowledge or talent but because they just quit!
When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
Giving up is the number one reason people fail because it is the only permanent failure. As long as you are actively trying, you have not failed yet. But remember this :
Once you give up , you are failed already
You can have the worst strategy and focus on all of the wrong things, but as long as you keep trying, you will learn and have hope. That is an important truth.
3. Ignoring Mistakes of Past
Some people live and learn, and some only live. Failure is a teacher if we have the right attitude. Wise people learn from their mistakes—experience is the name they give to slipups.
Define the problem better. Analyze the situation—what you want to achieve, what your strategy is, why it didn’t work. Are you really viewing the problem correctly? If you need money, you have more options than increasing revenue. You could also cut expenses. Think about what you’re really trying to do.
4. Poor Self-Esteem
Poor Self-esteem is a lack of self-respect and self-worth.
People with low self-confidence are constantly trying to find themselves rather than creating the person they want to be.
Don’t label yourself. You might have failed, but you’re not a failure until you stop trying. Think of yourself as someone still striving toward a goal, and you’ll be better able to maintain your patience and perseverance for the long haul.
Dont let a single battle distract you from the war
The above quote is very significant when we deal with this topic. The general attitude of people is getting distracted by a single failure.
People plan well, follow strict self-discipline, stay focused but they often fail here. We perform well while every thing goes well, but at the moment we see the failure we lost our entire hope of achieving what we want.
It is disappointing to lose any battle. Sometimes it’s devastating. If your business fails, if your book or script is rejected, if you don’t make the basketball team, it’s tough to be positive.
But the war is not over, is it? If your business fails, won’t you know several key things NOT to do next time? Objectively, it’s a highly useful learning experience.
Make sure you’re not one of the many people who attach their identity to a submarine. If you mentally attach your identity and your chance to succeed to your business, and your business fails… ouch. Your really cool submarine is destroyed, and you’re stuck 1000 feet under water. Instead, why not see your business as a ship that could possibly take you where you’d like to go. That way, if it sinks, you can jump overboard and still join a pirate crew.
Don’t view your business or current life pursuit as a submarine. If it fails, you’ll drown in disappointment. View it as a ship, preferably with lifeboats. What’s that? Yes, I know submarines are cooler. Oh, you’d like your submarine painted to look like a shark? Fine. You may view your business as a submarine shark. Sigh.
The optimal strategy in life is to focus on winning the battle you’re in. I think most of us get this step right but miss the next crucial one.
In the real war, conditions and scenarios are altered after a battle. Both sides have gained intel about the other side’s firepower and tactics, and both sides have lost men. This calls for a modified strategy, which means zooming out for a broader view of the war.
Immediately after you receive that rejection letter, re-strategize for your “war.” Are you going to edit your book and submit it to a new publisher? Are you going to self-publish it as is? Are you going to use the same strategy until you strike gold?
The most successful leaders in the history of warfare were the ones who could modify their strategy quickly, decidedly, and strategically. Do you do the same in your life?
Even if you win a battle, you can lose ground in the war by not anticipating and prepare for the next battle. Life is full of battles, and the key is not letting any single battle distract you from your main objective in your “war” – living how you want to live.
6. Not Having A Proper Planning
An improvised living will give you unexpected results. You will always have a better chance to succeed in any venture if you have a plan. By forming a simple plan, former non-planners will increase their rate of success.
When you make your plan, be sure it’s specific. Don’t say, “I’m going to exercise tomorrow.” Say, “I’m taking the red van to the YMCA at 3 PM tomorrow to complete a 35-minute leg workout, starting with squats.” Having a complete vision of your intentions prepares you to execute them and you’ll be more likely to flatten obstacles in your way. I’m not just saying that. It’s been proven to be more effective.
If you work hard without having a plan its just a pain! So Planning is equal importance to execution.Improper planning and not having a proper vision led you to the miserable life.So learn to plan.
Case study: Mike Tyson didn’t plan for retirement. He made about $300 million in his career but filed for bankruptcy in 2003. This is only possible without a solid financial plan.